We all have our own values, a moral constitution that governs our behaviours and the people we choose to associate with.
Thousands of people are employed in the adult entertainment industry, and if there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years, it’s that their private lives are not much different than that of folks who work in any number of professions. They live, they love, and they experience life pretty much the same way we all do.
So would I date a cam girl? Before I answer the question, I would like to take a closer look at the issues at play.
The first is sexuality. Sex is a natural, healthy part of life. We all do it. We all fantasize about it, and yes, we all love to watch it. I’ve always considered sex as falling into one of two categories – intimate sex and recreational sex.
Intimate sex is what you share with your lover and is very private in nature. When two (or more) people share their feelings in a physical manner, society and the individual demand a certain level of discretion.
Recreation sex on the other hand, is the celebration of this wonderful gift we’ve had bestowed upon us, the ability to experience pleasure and orgasm at will.
The recreational depiction of sex is not a recent phenomenon. In the ruins of ancient Pompei, archeologists have found paintings and carvings which depicted the sex act in incredible detail. Such works were often found in common areas of dwellings where they would be shared with visitors. It’s obvious that ancient societies celebrated sex more openly than our ‘modern’ society does.
In fact, explicit depictions of sex have been found in almost every ancient civilization on earth. Think porn is a product of our modern day society – think again. It’s been around for thousands of years, the only variable that’s changed is the media used to deliver and consume the product.
But is sex, on a certain level, art? Ancient civilizations certainly had no reservations of depicting sexual acts in art works. Even today, productions such as Cirque du Soleil celebrate the human form and it’s capabilities within the context of art. So the evidence is clear. Sex is a normal, wonderful thing, and we have always celebrated it’s presence through art.
Humans love to be entertained. We like music, movies, dance, and yes, erotica. We love them because they tickle our senses and transport us away, if even for a short period of time, from our day to day reality. The arts help us relax and experience life through the actions of others.
When I think of entertainers, I don’t make a distinction between say, a musician, an dancer or a webcam performer. They’re all putting on a public display of their talent and beauty in an effort to entertain others in exchange for money.
So the first part of the equation is solved. If a girl told me she was a webcam model, I would be comfortable with that, as my perception of her would be no different than that I would have of any other person who entertains others for a living. Yes, her work is sexual in nature, but art and sex have always shared a bond, and I have no moral quarrel with that fact. It’s recreational sex, not intimate sex.
The second issue is character. I like a girl who’s attractive, confident, smart and with a deep sense of empathy for others. I’ve met several cam girls over the years who had many, if not all, of these traits. In fact, I’ve met several webcam models who are very savvy business women.
Cam girls also tend to be very physically fit, have beautiful smiles and take good care of their personal grooming and appearance. They’re also in touch with their sexuality in a way that many other girls might not be. I can image they would be fantastic lovers.
So what’s not to love? Not only would I date a cam girl, I think doing so would be really cool and bring a whole new perspective to my life.
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